Well, I liked writing them 🙂
This time I come back to write about one more quotient, a related factor that I think of normally and I would leave it to you to figure out if they are related. I also give a H formula from Vedanta!
One is the ‘Grumpiness Quotient’ and the other is ‘Guilt Quotient’.
Your Grumpiness quotient increases as you take upon things that you do not seem to like or forced to do things that you are not naturally equipped for.
You can measure it in your day to day life. Some of the examples are as follows
- You would have just come and sat in your favourite corner in your home, with a cup of tea , your news paper to be opened in ready state and someone in the house will immediately call you to attend to their urgent and important needs, which is probably neither urgent nor important.
- You would receive a call from your home asking ‘Where are you’ ,(I think this is a problem that needs to be fixed. There is a 99.999% chance that they know very well where you are and just need a reaffirmation every one hour in a day.)
- You start early for office thinking you would avoid the traffic and you figure out that you are caught in the middle of the bell curve where everyone thought about starting early that particular day
- Your children come to you with some school projects which encourages experiential learning, when all your life you have managed to scrape through being a book worm.
- Your boss calls you and tell that you have to be more innovative or strategic. They will not generally use ‘you’, but generally use ‘we’. When someone uses that word ‘Be Innovative’ I get a feeling of nausea.
- You are invited for a nice lunch on a Sunday afternoon and you need to decide between your sleep or the nice lunch. (For me it is a struggle particularly if it is a banana leaf lunch invitation)
The above look like small little things. But these are the small little things that possibly and subconsciously add to the grumpiness quotient.
GQ = (Tasks that makes you irritable) / (Tasks that makes you happy)
The equation is not that simple. You can plug in choice as a factor to this equation. But generally, I feel that we all make choices that force us to be grumpy . In some sense we become wiser in hindsight.
To share a secret, I use being grumpy as a strategy or generally as an avoidance strategy. I will act like the word is falling down on my head, but internally I know that I am at peace with myself and enjoying. It is just that I do not want anyone to know that I am Enjoy Maading!! (Having Fun). It does not sound like a great virtue to me, but nevertheless I employ it as a very effective tactical strategy. Also I have figured this out, If someone says ‘hi’ to me, I have figured that my response to that ‘hi’ will not make that person come near me for the next seven births. I do not know why, but this seems to be an inborn talent that I am born with.
If you have managed to hold on till here, I have figured out why make the conscious choice to be grumpy. I think that is another ‘G’ factor which is called the guilt factor.
If you kind of delve into the next layer, tasks that make you irritable are tasks that you do because of ‘what they will think otherwise’. In other words, generally you would have no inclination of doing that task, but you would be consumed by guilt thinking what the other person will think and end up doing that task.
So in essence what is happening is you are trying to minimize guilt and end up maximizing grumpiness. What is the other choice ?
Maximize Guilt and Minimize Grumpiness.
Is there an optimal mid path ?
I will let the cat out of the bag.
No one gives a damn either way.
It affects only you.
I found another interesting formula , courtesy of vedanta course of chinmaya mission, which is as below
“Happiness can be express in the form of an equation like this
Happiness = Number of desires fulfilled/Number of desires entertained
The quantum of happiness increases either by increasing the nominator of decreasing the denominator or by both. The fulfillment of the existing desires quietens the agitations created by the desires. By entertaining fewer desires, again, the agitations in one’s mind are lessened. In either case, therefore, it is the lessening of the agitations or the quietening of the mind that produces happiness in one’s bosom.
Though the above formula for happiness is irrefutable, there is a danger in relying on indulgence in the senses for the fulfillment of desires for one’s happiness as this generally causes more desires to spring up. With the increase in the number of desires, the denominator of the equation increases resulting in the reduction of happiness. The best way of establishing permanent happiness is to reduce the number of desires entertained by your mind by directing your thoughts to the all-pervading Divine”
Grumpy, Guilt, Happiness. Just too much maths in a day!!!
Enjoy Maadi (Have Fun)