I remember during my inter-school cricket matches my Physical Training teacher always used to give us this advice ‘ Give a tough fight’.
I was just recollecting that some days back with my friend and he had a point of view. He said that guy never expected us to win and that is the reason he always tells us to give a tough fight. I think my friend saw the funny side of it.
However, over the years, I think the way I have programmed myself also has become that way.
I think I have over consumed this scene from Rocky Balbao and somehow I have a feeling that I am too comfortable with falling down and getting up and that dangerously is becoming a cycle.
I think I have turned Resilience into an euphemism for non achievement.
I am neither too harsh or too judgemental on myself, but deep down I think I have this subconscious program running which keeps on telling me “It’s ok to fail and I can deal with it”.
The classic question of ‘What is the worst that can happen’ ? My answer always would be I can deal with the worst.
Since this is running so powerfully, I am realizing the side effects of this voice and the important side effects of that kind of programming are
“Lack of personal accountability to results”. I comfort myself by saying ‘You did your best’ and fall into the bottomless pit of self-defense.
“Reduced Effort”. I comfort myself by saying “Tomorrow is another day”
“Strayed Focus”. I comfort myself by saying “It’s not life and death”
I can add to this, but I think I am thinking something wrong with my premise of starting something with “It’s OK to fail”.
I think it’s NOT ok to fail. It’s life and death. Tomorrow is not another day. I think it is that kind of intensity that differentiates the achievers and the also-rans.
I think there is enough evidence out there to prove that real achievers do not camouflage Resilience as an euphemism and do not begin with the premise of “It’s OK to fail”.
Please do not get me wrong. I am not saying that I shall castigate myself if I do not achieve something.
All I am saying is that I deserve to be castigated if I set myself for failure without the necessary application and camouflage that lack of application with the language of pop-psychology.
So to summarize and to establish clarity, if someone is going to come and ask me should I “Play to Participate” or “Play to Win”, my answer would be an unambiguous “Play to Win”.
With all respect towards my physical training teacher, I think it would have made heaven of a difference if he had said ‘ Go, get the cup. folks‘ and not ‘Give a tough fight’
I am going to re-orient my frame of reference from in at least one area of life with a ‘do or die’ approach and see how it goes. ‘Die’ does not mean I will ‘die’ but I will not begin with the premise of ‘It’s OK to fail’.
I heard an interesting story about the rise of Dainik Bhaskar. When the sons approached their father on their dream of taking the news paper big , the only question that the father asked them is ‘Are you prepared to Die’ . When the sons were wondering what the father was saying, the father retorted with ‘You have to be prepared to die for your dreams’.
I think that is the kind of preparation that possibly sets champions apart in possibly any field.
What do you think ?
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